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Getting back with your ex
Natalia J 52132107-Dec-23
From high school sweethearts to young lovers who were forced apart or broke up, but became a couple again years later - often after marrying and creating a family with someone else. How and when you know love is right? Can timing be everything? What are your thoughts on getting back with your ex?
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  • allin
    LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL,,, really,,,LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL, i would rather drink super glue😁
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    • Jennifer H 722364
      Is it love or friendship . Age on relationship creates needs of a different kind .Life experiences makes us see people in a different light .Consider all the aspects of before and how did you come full circle .It would be nice to the the love never died all those years past but are we the same two people now and what do we truly want in life at this point in time ,There could be children involved and they have feelings too about their parents and partners .,Ask your self is it love or ? Heartache comes cheap
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      • Leonie 705004
        It's a big decision that only you could answer. I would question all reasons why you broke up in the first place. Once children are involved, there's a big change and big risk. Take your time getting to know each other again. There's no need to rush. Make sure you do what you want to do but, also think about important family around you. Whatever your choice, I wish you the very best. - Has he always been good to you?- why did you break up and have to talked over those reasons so you are not repeating them?- Do the children get along?- How do your friends and family feel and why?- Communication is huge. Do you talk about things? - Any past relationship isses? And I am sure there are many moee questions.
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        • Roberta E 611945
          You can’t turn back time, always move forward 😊
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          • Maryjane Sativa
            A wise man once told me: Getting back together with your ex is like pushing your poop back into your bum. It doesn't work, and all you end up accomplishing is making a mess.
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            • Greg B 520364
              An X is for a reason. Very rarely is there a time to get back together, move on.
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              • Phillip H 667301
                Very appealing, because we all.grow and learn from our own mistakes.
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                • Pam G 449028
                  I don’t think so.
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                  • Terri
                    What is love? It’s just lust and that wears off in time.
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                    • Debbie C 147795
                      Couldn't if I want too anyway he has passed away RIP
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                      • Mary G 409440
                        It sounds so romantic but be warned - think very carefully before you make any commitments you might regret because it may not end like a perfect love story. Having two different families can often cause friction even if the children are adults and living their own lives.
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                        • Mercedes 1376978
                          An ex is an ex for a reason… no way will I take an ex back
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                          • Campbell C 184664
                            why?
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                            • Mary M 329762
                              I don't know
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                              • Rodger M
                                Don't think my wife would like that ....
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                                • Mariaj
                                  The only one of my ex's I would get back with would be my first one
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                                  • Angel
                                    Which one? More than one ex 😂
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                                    • Catherine K 1050537
                                      My first love was wonderful, however he cheated. I met up with him later and he was just the same. Although I will always have a place in my heart, I have changed and know we are no longer a good match
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                                      • Glenyse H
                                        GReat for both partners
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                                        • AuntyMandaBoo
                                          That’s my story we did exactly that . We are better together now we are older …. Life couldn’t be sweeter
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                                          • Pat C 618241
                                            Ah young love! Quite by accident I met him 20 years on to find him about to divorce his wife. However, we both were someone quite different by then. I was married and had a teenage daughter and it just could not have worked,we were friends for a while but I knew he had changed from the man I fell for back in my teens, so we parted as friends.
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                                            • Missy Wyld
                                              onwards and upwards...they r an ex for a reason...what ever that was.....was not meant to be...
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                                              • Carolyn7 P
                                                I don't believe in going backwards in my life.
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                                                • Paula J 395266
                                                  Can't comment because I have never had an ex.
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                                                  • Lynn-a-Boo @ Brisvegas
                                                    depends on why you broke up but in my case my ex just woke up one morning and didn't want to be married anymore said he didn't need the hassle and couldn't be bothered being married that is after 40 years so no getting back with a ex is not always the right thing to do
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                                                    • Kathleen C 1054815
                                                      Depends. On why you broke up in the first place and what the motivation is to get back together.
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                                                      • Gunter L
                                                        Yes, timing is everything. Getting back with your ex is very risky. In most cases it doesn't work out. Often, the reason you broke up in the first place keeps coming back to haunt you. Statistics sow that getting together with your ex hardly ever works out. Why risk it, there are plenty more fish in the sea?
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                                                        • Kamila P
                                                          Trust the timing in your life. It's always gonna work out for you as long as you not going to fight it.
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                                                          • merricat
                                                            I have been together with my high school sweetheart for 54 years, married for 48 1/2 years ( 1 week after his college graduation ). There has never been any one else for either of us.
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                                                            • AuntyMandaBoo
                                                              Aww that’s soo sweet
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                                                            • Mariaj
                                                              That's so gorgeous, well done both of you. I only wish that would have happened to me also
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                                                          • LeAnn 1290067
                                                            Absolutely positively would not get back with my ex.
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                                                            • Jackie 1415135
                                                              tried it with the first husband ... biggest mistake I ever made going back BUT it ended up that my second husband is the one I should have married in the first place ... I dumped him for the first one! Second time the best though, over 32 years
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                                                              • Shawn B 1061185
                                                                I tried it but the same old troubles started almost right away.
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                                                                • Jules 544763
                                                                  47 years with the same guy, I wouldn't want to get back with my ex, he was a women basher.
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                                                                  • Sonya F 68771
                                                                    It all depends who broke you up but you do hear stories like that all the time
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                                                                    • Daniel A 2
                                                                      Unfortunately I don't have an Ex to get back with. N/A
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                                                                      • Wendy Q
                                                                        Depends how you really both feel still.
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                                                                        • jeff e
                                                                          not
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                                                                          • Liane H
                                                                            Hand me a spoon of crushed glass .l'd rather die !
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                                                                            • Wayne Wilson
                                                                              No way in hell! Been there done that!
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                                                                              • Jennifer 1428049
                                                                                I would never go back to my ex. He put his hands on me and I don't play that way!!
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                                                                                • david j t
                                                                                  it is only what you make it
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                                                                                  • Paul B 522937
                                                                                    i never go back if she cheats on me with my best friend its over
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                                                                                    • Irene 1389003
                                                                                      He's in heaven. Rest in peace my love.
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                                                                                      • Laura W 363255
                                                                                        It all depends on circumstances on why you separated and why now you want to get back together again. One size doesnt fit all
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                                                                                        • Armadillo
                                                                                          No way.
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                                                                                          • Val B 69099
                                                                                            love will come when you least expect it. just embrace it and go with the flow
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                                                                                            • boy blunder
                                                                                              you know when love is right it is when you know you are doing wrong that you realize what you have is right
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                                                                                              • Ernie 67
                                                                                                Not interested in getting back with my ex - he's in my past for a very good reason but it would be for each couple to decide for themselves - everyone has their own history and choices
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                                                                                                • Jenny L 591463
                                                                                                  For me there is no way in the world I would, they put me through hell and them some. Maybe one day if I get a chance to be with an old high school love. Honestly I am happily married and second time, I don't dwell on the past or what could have been. I live for the now and what I have and I think it is pretty awesome. Thanks for sharing and glad you found each other again and it seems all has worked out for the two of you. Good Luck and have a bright happy future together again.❤️
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                                                                                                  • Gaza
                                                                                                    Once the bridge is burnt, there's no going back.
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                                                                                                    • JANN R
                                                                                                      There is no way I would get back with my ex he was a con artist and molested my daughter at 10 years old I never want to see that horrible person again
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                                                                                                      • Jenny L 591463
                                                                                                        He should be in jail.
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                                                                                                      • JANN RJenny L 591463
                                                                                                        Yes but if we had taken him to court my daughter would have had to testify and she had just got over all the stress so I didn't want her to go through all that again
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                                                                                                      • Jenny L 591463JANN R
                                                                                                        Understandable I hope your daughter is okay and I certainly hope he gets what he deserves eventually. Good luck for the future for both of you.
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                                                                                                      • JANN RJenny L 591463
                                                                                                        She is 51 now married and has four girls she is doing fine but it took her a long time to recover if I had seen him on the street I would have run him over thank heaves I have not seen him again he may even be dead may he rot in hell
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                                                                                                      • Jenny L 591463JANN R
                                                                                                        Absolutely I would have done the same thing. So glad to hear she's okay and yes takes a long time to adjust to that sort of trauma. She's a survivor and she should be proud she could get past what happened to her and be happy. I wish her lots more happiness and many more very safe and special years ahead of her and all her family including you.
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                                                                                                      • JANN RJenny L 591463
                                                                                                        Thanks so much for your support have a merry Christmas
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                                                                                                      • Jenny L 591463JANN R
                                                                                                        Merry Christmas and have a Happy prosperous New Year too Enjoy time with your family. We are having a quiet one at home just us and our pets.
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                                                                                                      • JANN RJenny L 591463
                                                                                                        Thanks we are having a quiet one to love to your family
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                                                                                                    • ELIZABETH F 1074855
                                                                                                      I believe there are people who know their mistakes and have learned from them. To them I say good for you and do not do not do not let anyone tell you it won't work...
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                                                                                                      • Empress
                                                                                                        I can't speak for other people, but I was married to the devil incarnate! I never want to see the turkey ever again let alone getting back with him!! Phftoo!!!!!
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                                                                                                        • Hellen 1425183
                                                                                                          If the marriage wasn't working it could be a possibility but otherwise a big no
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                                                                                                          • Roslyn A
                                                                                                            Hmmm....my children were aged 14, 12, 4 when my ex took off with a 17 year old. He's sorry now but no way would I get back with him!
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                                                                                                            • writerrochelle
                                                                                                              Need more information, please? Are the couple still married to their partners when they meet again? Then, NO! Work on the marriage/family you already have! Are they single, widowed or divorced? Then, MAYBE! If enough years have passed that each have "grown up" and matured, and they still match with more important things than looks and physical attraction, it's possible to reconnect and make it work. I learned later in life that an old schoolmate had asked about me, and I would have gone for it if I could have. ;-(
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                                                                                                              • Grant 1393984
                                                                                                                No point in going backwards and hoping for the best. You know what happened last time so give it a miss and move forward.
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                                                                                                                • kristian s 513441
                                                                                                                  I am not getting back with all ex-boyfriends that have dated back in high school at all.
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                                                                                                                  • Maria B 89860
                                                                                                                    Could it just be as simple as that the "S" was missing without the ex??!!
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                                                                                                                    • Edith v
                                                                                                                      Think first why did you break up with him .Why go back & the same thing happens.Give more attention to your marriage & your children the timing is now
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                                                                                                                      • Tina 423889
                                                                                                                        depends on lots of factors, if time has changed, if the breakup was ok.
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                                                                                                                        • Michele 511191
                                                                                                                          Life goes on and you must go forward. Do not look back!
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                                                                                                                          • Cherryl T
                                                                                                                            It depends on why you were parted. If it is because you weren't compatible then nothing will change
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                                                                                                                            • Grommie
                                                                                                                              one dead from medical causes, one committed suicide, one I'd never consider. so, errr. no
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                                                                                                                              • Amanda 1427880
                                                                                                                                Not getting back with my ex and I haven't talked to him in about 2 years
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                                                                                                                                • Paul W 383502
                                                                                                                                  I can't.
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                                                                                                                                  • Karen K 487187
                                                                                                                                    no
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                                                                                                                                    • Tania NSW
                                                                                                                                      Follow what your heart is telling you have patience and be kind to each other. I have been married for 11 years and learn to give and take
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                                                                                                                                      • Sheree T
                                                                                                                                        Follow what your heart is telling you. If it makes you happy to get back together then go for it. It is something I would never do personally.
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                                                                                                                                        • Tricia 1381467
                                                                                                                                          No because he hasn't been a part of our sons lives
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                                                                                                                                          • Karen R 112288
                                                                                                                                            My ex came out of the closet 6mths after our break up, so if I'd timed it better, I may well have met him after his gayness!
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                                                                                                                                            • B Keeper
                                                                                                                                              Impossible, the farmer sold her at the annual sheep sales.
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                                                                                                                                              • allin
                                                                                                                                                did ya lose the hip boots to????
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                                                                                                                                            • Vivian M 867575
                                                                                                                                              Hell NO
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                                                                                                                                              • Dusan 1329983
                                                                                                                                                It can be great, but the shadow of caution becomes (unfortunately) necessary - for both sides. Growth must be seen as a required component of the 'new' relationship.
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                                                                                                                                                • Susanne J 766654
                                                                                                                                                  Not for me. That's why they call them ex,,s
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                                                                                                                                                  • BiPolarBear
                                                                                                                                                    Move on bad juju
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                                                                                                                                                    • Robert T 597718
                                                                                                                                                      give him a miss Natalia
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                                                                                                                                                      • Michelle 1281734
                                                                                                                                                        No interest in any of my exes. They were terrible.
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                                                                                                                                                        • Carolyn K 714554
                                                                                                                                                          To each his own. If this makes you both happy! Why not.
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                                                                                                                                                          • gordy
                                                                                                                                                            Depends on why they became an ex. Some things are unforgivable.
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                                                                                                                                                            • Dianne W 795962
                                                                                                                                                              No, thank you.
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                                                                                                                                                              • Paul R 936022
                                                                                                                                                                It's better not to be unequivocally yoked in the first place.
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                                                                                                                                                            • gordy
                                                                                                                                                              Depends on why they became an ex. Some things are unforgivable.
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                                                                                                                                                              • Lee b 979050
                                                                                                                                                                Natty you're being nutty Think about it. Your ex comes into your life you grab a coffee chat head back to a hotel room do the mambo jumbo then when you're getting dressed to go home you realise there's 2 beautiful kids and a loving partner waiting at home. You wanna really play that game. Thout shall nor commit adultery Give it up girl friend
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                                                                                                                                                                • Lachelle B
                                                                                                                                                                  They're called EX for a reason, keep it that way.
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                                                                                                                                                                  • Elizabeth T 396096
                                                                                                                                                                    Well said. Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.
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                                                                                                                                                                • SueM2
                                                                                                                                                                  A leopard doesn't change it's spots, so no, I have no desire to return to my ex-husband!
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                                                                                                                                                                  • Tupulua S
                                                                                                                                                                    THE BAD THING IS, THEY HAVE CREATED A FAMILY AND MAY BE CHILDREN WILL SUFFER BECAUSE OF THE BROKEN FAMILY. THE CHILDREN SUFFER THE MOST BECAUSE OF OUT PRIDE AND LUST. IT THAT FAIR TO THE CHILDREN
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                                                                                                                                                                    • Sophie 1415907
                                                                                                                                                                      It s a no no.
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                                                                                                                                                                      • pam rae
                                                                                                                                                                        HM, NO ,NEVER WENT THRU, ,ONCE OVER I MOVED ON AND ALWAYS HAD A GREAT RELATIONSHIP WITH A EX TO THIS DAY..
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                                                                                                                                                                        • Claude H
                                                                                                                                                                          The only way I will get back with my ex is to die as she passed away over 14 years ago.
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                                                                                                                                                                          • Stacie 1426739
                                                                                                                                                                            If it was ment to be it will be.
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                                                                                                                                                                            • Reva D
                                                                                                                                                                              No don't wanna get back with my ex
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                                                                                                                                                                              • just me- NZ
                                                                                                                                                                                For me personally no way! But it may work for others. Why not give it a try, you will soon know if its going to work or not.
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                                                                                                                                                                                • Linda 3
                                                                                                                                                                                  The only ex I have was my very first boyfriend during high school and he died last year. I married my second boyfriend and still married.So,,,,no,
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                                                                                                                                                                                  • Sandra C 12043
                                                                                                                                                                                    Next year we will have been married 60 years.
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                                                                                                                                                                                    • david j t
                                                                                                                                                                                      have to have things in common to make things work
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                                                                                                                                                                                      • Cher
                                                                                                                                                                                        Moving forward from an ex was the best thing for me and the children at age 48. Wanted a peaceful life and we got it!
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                                                                                                                                                                                        • Pamela G
                                                                                                                                                                                          Peace is a wonderful thing.
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                                                                                                                                                                                        • CherPamela G
                                                                                                                                                                                          Yes it is. Thank you Pamela.
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                                                                                                                                                                                      • Nola B 392757
                                                                                                                                                                                        Timing is everything! I would never get back with my ex because he wasn't the one...he just wanted my money. But getting old has its advantages...nothing to lose. I have had a ball over the last few years finding all the ones that got away and in a couple of cases doing better than back in the day lol Last Christmas was horrible for me until I ran into a person that I used to call my 13year one night stand lol I had nothing to lose by yelling out Merry Christmas and we ended up in a long happy chat that healed many old wounds..he made my Christmas. I have also found the one I should have been with but once again timing got in the way...however we have been in a very loving long distance relationship for eight years now. I may only physically see him once every 6 months and chat at length once a week but at this age and being independent for so long that suits me just fine. I know he is the one because he does not want to change a thing about me. I have found others that I had unfinished business with. Its easy to find old loves these days and its great fun...I highly recommend the pursuit. Some you put to rest and some you get to have a real laugh with. I recommend it as a way of having no regrets in life.
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                                                                                                                                                                                        • Cher
                                                                                                                                                                                          Bravo for you Nola
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                                                                                                                                                                                      • Gina P 1140476
                                                                                                                                                                                        It will never happen we are not in love with each other.
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                                                                                                                                                                                        • LEAH G. (Philippines CEBU )
                                                                                                                                                                                          For me no need getting back with your ex and you left already so We have to move on .
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                                                                                                                                                                                          • Pamela G
                                                                                                                                                                                            Often the ship has sailed.
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                                                                                                                                                                                        • Jessica G
                                                                                                                                                                                          It's hard to make an accurate 100% one side or the other answer for this one. Every situation is different. In my own experience, getting back with an ex never ended well. In fact, it got quite worse than it was before it had ended originally. I believe my choice to return to an ex was the exact picture of what stupidity is....doing the same action repeatedly all while expecting a different result each time. Now, if the case had been that we had been together previously & got along well, & had been forced apart by circumstances of our control we certainly would deserve the chance to try again.
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                                                                                                                                                                                          • Cher
                                                                                                                                                                                            Well said and done!
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