I didn't change my name, but am ok with people who want to. It's up to the person.

What if we all kept every name, think if Miss Mavis Borth-Avrille-Landon married Mr Dickie Lathen-Simeon-Yoike then imagine this. “Oh my God Agnes!” Maurice ejaculated, “it’s those little B-A-L-L-S-Y horrors again. Quickly, hide the lamingtons”

Such a silly thing to say. You can change your name or not or hyphenate both names and sometimes even the husband takes the wife's name. It is just a name and it means your children have an identity to both of you. This does not make either of you subservient. My grandfather was Danish and they never took a surname per se but they were named peterson or petersen for instance which means son of Peter. A daughter might be named mettedatter which means daughter of mette and so on. I tried to do my ancestry and thankfully I had help from a Danish person who helped me go through records. Luckily the family had all lived in the same village going back to the early 1400's. In the late 1800's the country decided they need to have a surname that continued on down the line to stop the confusion.

Why complicated. Couples have to choose one surname.

I think its silly if you dont. You are a family now and you should have the same name. It seems incomplete.

My wife changed her name 56 years and she has no regrets at all,very happy with her new name.

Sometimes its a wonderful way out of the name you had and some people really want to be known as the Mrs of someone

I changed my name 45 years ago. seemed the natural thing to do at time and I have no regrets

What's in a name ...a rose would smell as sweet by any other...sounds familar? Edited 21-Aug-20 20:06pm

Up to each person when they get married

I never did because I'll always be my dad's daughter.

What's in a name? if you are so concerned and really believe that women are still subservient to men then join both surnames with a hyphen. I really think the world is becoming far to politically correct and people are now afraid to open their mouths to speak their truth because sure as hell someone will accuse them of being sexist, racist or any other -ist you can think of. Relax, smell the roses and get over yourselves. Did you see the latest bit of noinsense coming from the Federal Govt? You will no longer be allowed to use Mr, Ms, Miss, Mrs, Master or Mistress (unless into BDSM) you all now have to use the non-gender identifying "Mx"! Also you are not allowed to refer to anyone which indicates their gender - He, She are out and in comes It, They. I have never heard such nonsense in my life and to think our grossly under-worked, over-paid politicians are using our money to bring in these absurd changes!Edited 21-Aug-20 18:30pm

I changed my surname 26 years ago as it was a natural thing for me to do.

Some people want to change them coz it makes there name sound better. An image thing perhaps. I guess there are ones they do it for love to show their devotion. Some keep both names. Up to the individual

It is the way it has always been.

When I married my husband I kept my surname but I choose his last name for my children but my husband has passed away

I was very happy to change my surname to my husbands. I didn't even have to think about it. Whether you change your name or not does not mean you are subservient to your partner.

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Being older never crossed my mind not to take my husbands surname

Poor Johana,I am woman hear me roar because she's such a bore!

Already married.

Not planning on marrying a bloke..

I am who I am it doesn’t matter what my name is

My married name was easier to spell and say and people got it right. Now back to my maiden name and people can't pronounce it lol. I don't believe it is a subserviant thing to take on your husbands name but it should be a choice. Edited 21-Aug-20 13:33pm

I have kept my initial married name (re: taxation purposes etc. etc.) when I married for the second time and go by either name depending on who wants to know. No biggy either way..........

My married name is easier to spell and say

we did not know we could keep our own names legally - I found out a long time later

It's only a name that people can identify you by.

I did! I changed my whole name completely lol

Who really cares

why are we talking about this who really cares

I kept my name when married. The other choice would have been totally lose my name, and called after my husband’s full name, adding a little suffix. So only the people who knew me by my first name, could recognise me by name in writing. Strange tradition. Now, people have more choice, but I think names are important, so we have to value them. Nothing to do with grace.

Poor Johanna, getting married does not diminish anyone. It grows everyone and women certainly are not subservient. Some choose to be traditional and others choose to use their first family name. After marriage they can have two and it’s their choice

It up to the woman if she wants to change her maiden name

It's just for old time sake, really it is completely any ones choice. My wife didn't change hers for in Indonesia every member of the family has a different second name, hers means Jade Angel.

I'm a man and wouldn't, I think a woman should though if married. If she doesn't why get married in the first place.

Ridiculous as the Maiden name comes from a man anyway.

Nonsense! Lol...I have a friend who recently got married and her husband took her maiden name as his surname,true story!

I believe it was rather appropriate to change your name- adter all you were getting married n loved n respected everything in that marriage proposal My maiden name was one i wanted to forget as very a very common name n abused named through wars " kraut" But can't say nowadays about name changing as most live in sin

If I were to marry I wouldn't change it. My last name is really rare, I like it. Its why our child has both our last names. So all 3 of us now have different last names!

I wanted to change my surname when i got married for the second time,why would i want to keep my e-x husbands surname when he was so abusive.

TAKE IT LEAVE IT I ALWAYS HAD TO SPELL MY MAIDEN NAME TO EVERY ONE NOW I HAVE TO SPELL MY MARRIED NAME BIG DEAL

This is rubbish! It is a woman's choice whether to keep her name or change it to that of her husband. It has nothing to do with subservience. Our name is a combination of our two names - this was suggested before our marriage by my fiancé and he changed his by deed poll ahead of the wedding so we both used it from that day onwards.

I chose to take my husbands name when we got married. I wanted our children to have the same surname as there father and mother. I am not subservient to my husband at all, we have a partnership and have had for 40 years. Some of the strongest women I know are married and took their husbands surnames.

Do whatever you choose. It's up to you what you do in consultation with your intended partner.

It's not mandatory. Like most things in life it's about making a choice you are happy with.

when I got married 50 years ago it was the done thing to change your surname to your husband name

I'm already married and if I was to remarry I would decide then

I'm single by choice, but I'd never change my surname! Maybe if a man wanted to change his name to mine, that would be OK. I happen to have a cool surname - people often ask me if I was born with that name or did I change it, but I was born with it.

This is a trivial matter.

I was very proud to take my husbands name, and now I am a widow I still keep his name.

I married and didn't change my last name. I keep my father last name and i am happy. My husband understood why i keep my last name is my father. In the end a last name is just a name. If you want to change or not its up to boths. Edited 21-Aug-20 07:54am

This I a tradition the majority of us are brought up with and don’t know any different, but it’s not actually by-law you have to change it...

i'd keep my namr

where do you guys get this Bull smit from.

With you Walter W. Have been married 40 years but still have the name I was born with - my choice! But I answer to Mrs X... when politic (dealing with tradesmen, etc), and my mother always addressed mail to my hyphenated surname. Flexible, Johana, not subservient!

it depends some people can not wait to change there name

Depends on the person, I took my husband's last name it suits me just fine. No servant here, I am his wife period!!

My name is valjacob

I think it is special and exciting to use your partner’s name but to keep yours as well so a double barrel name would be good

Yeah it is weird. You’re known as one thing all your life then your known as something else. Why doesn’t the man change his last name to the woman’s?

Agree it’s the 21st century and women are still becoming Mrs and taking their husbands name. It’s just ridiculous we should never have the titles is my main thing Mrs and Miss should not exist. It’s Mr for men it should be Ms for women. And anyone one here that says there is nothing wrong with it or it’s being ultra feminist. No it just makes equality sense why should people know if a female is married but not a male. By all means change your name if you like his name better - I did hated my old surname - completely voluntary it should be, but please drop the Mrs. I cannot stand it when someone calls me as Mrs.....

Subservient to men? Traditionally a woman did take their husbands surname as she was considered his property. The husband would also take over any lands and monies that came with the marriage. But that was in the past. Today women have the the choice to either keep their surname, hyphenate or take their husbands surname (just as Walter W said). So I don't see how you can accuse women of being subservient today. You can have your opinion but you are essentially calling other women disgraceful if they decide they want to take their husbands surname.

Bad choice of wording "willy-nilly" and hyphenated at that! I really don't know now just how to respond lest it turn into a long rambling on!

Johana C, I think you are mistaken. Women are not subservient to men just because they change their surname when married. It's called LOVE.

A women has three options concerning her surname (when getting married). Keep her surname, hyphen her surname with her husband surname, or take her husband surname. A decision each bride makes on her own - without any undue pressure (supposedly)!

Depends on the surname