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Grandchildren do you help with them or do you think that you should be paid for helping family
Eileen L 83127908-Jul-24
I have read in different places that some people believe that they should be paid for helping with their grandkids and these days most families both of the parents to get by and if they have to pay a grandparent to help it sometimes cost too much and the kids miss out.
I do help with my grandkids by doing school drop-offs and after school activities which I enjoy spending time with the grandkids and wouldn't think of making my kids to pay me family helps family
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  • BLACK LIVES MATTER
    I didn't like kids when I was kid; hence, I NEVER had kids. Therefore, I don't have grandkids. If you cannot financially afford to have kids, then WHY did you have kids. It is NOT the responsibility of your parents to bail you out - GROW UP - and take responsibility for your decision to have a KID or KIDS - which means you SHOULD NOT expect your parents to bail you out of a financial mess you created with your eyes wide open or you hoping the government is going to bail you out...hm!
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    • Elizabeth J 447888
      People need to be encouraged to have children. There needs to be a huge pool of future taxpayers, I would have thought.
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    • BLACK LIVES MATTERElizabeth J 447888
      If 'old money' and 'nouveau riche' paid their fair share in taxes each year - you 'do not' need a huge pool of future taxpayers!
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  • Val 1394045
    No grand children 1 pt
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    • Laura 1537368
      Honestly it depends on your situation if you're in a position to be able to help out your parents by paying them for the help that they give you then of course they would appreciate the gesture they may not need it but sometimes just offering it is enough. If you're in a position where you clearly cannot afford to pay your your parents for helping you with the kids and the parents are of the understanding and just get pleasure out of being around their grandkids then no you shouldn't have to pay them.
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      • Janice S 76330
        If it's just occasional then I don't think money should come into it, after all it's lovely to spend some time with the grandchildren. But if it's regular and often, so that the mum can work then I think there should be some form of compensation, especially now with the cost of living so high. Maybe the grandparents can't afford to pay their car registration or the car needs a service or something like that. That way both sides benefit from the arrangement.
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        • Linda C
          No Grandparents should not receive an hourly rate but of course parents who leave their kids with them should ensure they pay for food, drinks, etc. as just common sense as most grandparents are only living on a small pension. Childcare services although subsidized are still so expensive it is often not worth going to work as all the money goes in the balance of the fees so help from the family is the only way to try and get ahead or at least get by,. I used to pick my grandchild up from school every day and have her with me till Mum came home. We had lovely times together. I guess it depends on the dynamics of the family, costs to all parties, and also the abilities of the grandparents as age and health can be an issue.
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          • Morenita
            Oh I love this…..I help my daughter with my grandchildren since I really don’t give her money for them. It’s like an even exchange, lol. I help her watch the kids while she makes her own money working at the hospital. At 1st she was paying me but then I told her not too because it’s a blessing for me to be able to be with my grandsons.
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            • Cher
              I have helped out with my grandkids since they were born and will continue to do so as long as I can. I cherish every moment I have with them and am the lucky one. Money is not in the equation: grandkids+grandparents = unconditional love and fun.
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              • LEAH G. (Philippines CEBU )
                WHAT IS A FAMILY. FOR ME A FAMILY SHOULD HELPING WITH EACH OTHER..A GRANDMOTHER SHOULD ALSO TAKE THERE RESPONSIBILITY TO TAKING CARE OF THERE GRANDCHILDREN SPECIALLY THERE PARENTS GOING TO WORK AND ALSO HELPING DOING HOME CHORES INSIDE THE HOUSE.THATS WHAT I DID TO ALL MY CHILDREN HELPING THEM..
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                • Ann D 726256
                  I do not want to be paid. Sometimes I think I should pay for the great joy and happiness given to me by my grandchildren. It is a blessing to be able to help in anyway.
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                  • emma 1537351
                    y
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                    • Aisha A 379399
                      Grandparents help out because they love their grandkids. But it does require time and energy. I think some appreciation should be shown but not necessarily with money. Buy groceries for the old folks or treat them to a nice meal once in a while.
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                      • Morenita
                        Yes 🙌🏼 my daughter always gives me a gift like a purse or shoes and I accept it lol
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                    • mike B 1066235
                      NO, IT IS GOOD FOR ANY YOUNG CHILD TO LEARN FROM DIF. PEOPLE.THIS WILL HELP HIM OR HER, IN THE LONG RUN, GIVE Your CHILD ALL KINDS OF HELP ONLY IF YOU TRUST THAT PERSON 100% BUT THAT IS JUST ME MIKE
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